Domestic violence is a pervasive issue that affects millions of people each year. In the United States alone, it is estimated that 1 in 4 women and 1 in 9 men experience severe intimate partner violence in their lifetime. Supporting a loved one who is a survivor of domestic violence can be challenging, but friends and family play a crucial role in their recovery process. This blog post will discuss how friends and family can provide tangible and useful support to domestic violence survivors, as well as resources available to help them navigate this difficult time.
1. Listen & Validate Their Experiences
One of the most important things friends and family can do is to listen to the survivor’s story without judgment or blame. It is essential to validate their feelings and experiences, as this can help them feel heard and understood. Encourage open communication and let them know that they can trust you with their feelings and thoughts. Remember that gaslighting is a common tactic used by abusers, so reinforcing the survivor’s reality can be incredibly powerful.
2. Offer Emotional Support & Encouragement
Providing emotional support is crucial in helping domestic violence survivors regain their self-esteem and confidence. Offer encouragement and remind them of their strengths and achievements. Be patient and understanding, as the healing process can take time. Encourage them to seek professional help if needed, such as therapy or support groups. The National Coalition Against Domestic Violence offers a comprehensive list of resources for survivors, including hotlines, shelters, and counseling services.
3. Help Them Create a Safety Plan
A safety plan is a personalized, practical plan that includes ways to remain safe while in a relationship, planning to leave, or after leaving an abusive relationship. Friends and family can help the survivor develop a safety plan by discussing their specific needs and concerns. This may include finding a safe place to stay, changing locks or phone numbers, and identifying support networks.
- Identify safe places where the survivor can go in case of an emergency.
- Help them gather important documents, such as identification, birth certificates, and financial records.
- Discuss strategies for maintaining communication with supportive friends and family members.
- Create a code word or signal that the survivor can use to alert you if they are in danger.
4. Provide Practical Assistance
Domestic violence survivors may need help with various practical matters, such as finding housing, childcare, or legal assistance. Offer to help with these tasks, or connect them with resources in your community that can provide support. The National Domestic Violence Hotline can provide information on local resources and services.
5. Encourage Them to Seek Legal Support
Domestic violence survivors may need legal assistance to protect themselves and their children. Encourage them to seek legal advice and representation, as this can be crucial in ensuring their safety and well-being. At Alers Law Firm, we understand the challenges faced by domestic violence survivors and are committed to providing compassionate and knowledgeable legal support. Our team of experienced attorneys can assist with obtaining restraining orders, navigating the criminal justice system, and representing survivors in family law matters.
If you or someone you know needs legal support related to domestic violence, contact Alers Law Firm today to discuss your options.
Attorney Chavelys Y. Alers was born and raised in Puerto Rico. She specifically grew up in the towns of Vega Baja and Dorado. Attorney Alers is bilingual, as she is fluent in both English and Spanish. Two decades ago, Attorney Alers migrated from Puerto Rico to the mainland United States, Central Florida. Learn more here.
